Mens & Womens Health

Men can sometimes experience some down time during their sex lives, whereby they become disinterested in any intimacy at all.

There is usually a reason behind it, but in situations like this, some women start to feel unwanted and unattractive. This is not the case. You need to find the cause of the problem and sort it out together as a partnership.

It can be a number of things - stress, finances, responsibilities, work, family, friends, medical problems, the list is endless, yet all have one aspect in common. Something negative has happened ad is now taking its toll on your man. The first step is to sit down with your man and try and talk through the issue. See if he knows what the problem could be. Be kind and caring, this is going to be rough going for him.

In some cases it’s as simple as the love has gone. There is likely to be other signals of this - more arguments, more hostility, similar feelings for both partners. If so, perhaps it’s time to reevaluate your relationship.

However, sometimes, it’ll be the lack of sex drive that causing the issues or your relationship will be fine, just lacking in the one department. In which case you need to dig deeper.

If your man can’t think of any obvious reason then a trip to the doctor is needed. If your man is taking any medication such as anti-depressants then the issue could well be a side-effect and a trip to the doctor and a change in meds could be all that’s needed.

If there is something medical wrong, then your man will doubtless be stressed. If there is something medically wrong then hopefully it can be treated. You may find that just the act of being diagnosed is enough to relieve the stress and you may find your man returning to his former self. If there is something physically wrong then this too can sometimes be helped with the use of Erectile Dysfunction (ED) drugs such as Viagra.

When it comes to social problems - ie. family issues, a fight with a friend, work etc, it could be a case of an argument, he may be worried about losing his job, perhaps a close relative has died, it can be addressed together as a couple.

Usually the act of talking things out will help lift some of the stress he feels so it is important to let him know that you are 100% there for him. Although most will deny it all men need a shoulder to cry on. It is your job as his partner and confident to support him. Arguments can be resolved, time will help heal wounds from losing loved ones, jobs can be replaced or perhaps even saved. But knowing he isn’t alone is invaluable.

Money is one of the main causes of relationship issues. But it can be helped by organizing. By physically writing out a budget, either weekly or monthly, it can give you both some perspective as to what needs to be done and where you can save a little by cutting back. This may not solve the problems, if they involve debt of any kind, but that can be helped by consulting a debt consolidator or similar company, or negotiating with credit companies. By sorting out your finances you can lift a great weight from his shoulders and help your man on the road to recovery.

Never stop showing him that you are attracted to him. You can influence him by making a move and coming on to him or why not try some new sex positions. If he is really not responding positively, keep your cool and do not get frustrated. If you own any sex toys then let him use them on you. Helping to make you cum could be enough to light his fire and help him on the road to recovery.

Whatever happens, patience is the key. Read more great advice from the girls at have-better-sex.com